A Year and A Day
It’s been a year and a day since I first came out to my wife about my doubts surrounding God and Mormonism. Lacey has some thoughts in retrospect.
For my part, I am grateful for her continuing love. I don’t want anything to come between us. I’ve come to realize that there are some things that you can’t change. Even if my disbelief would have broken up our marriage, I couldn’t have changed it. I might have managed to dissemble, but my heart wouldn’t have been in it. I am grateful that I didn’t have to live a deception in order to preserve our marriage.
Tags: Awakening, belief, family, LDS, marriage, Mormonism, religion
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BEEHIVE
said,
December 3, 2007 @ 11:06 am
Jonathan,
BEEHIVE
said,
December 3, 2007 @ 11:18 am
Jonathan,
You are truly very lucky to have such a supportive wife. This is a great example that the commitment to marriage is stronger than religion.
Jonathan Blake
said,
December 3, 2007 @ 11:37 am
I thought you were going to keep me in suspense.
I think I appreciate how lucky I am, though I’m probably twice as fortunate as I think I am. I hope that most people would prefer to stay with their spouse rather than creating a broken home, if they can both give respect to each other and their (ir)religious choices.
I realize that some people will object to the term “broken home” when I talk about divorce. While divorce is preferable in some situations, I see the damage it generally does. My ideal is to have all children born to lifelong loving partnerships. I’m not saying that other situations are “wrong” or somehow less worthy. I am saying that they are generally less than optimal for nurturing healthy human beings.
In any case, that’s not what I want for my wife or our children, and I’m willing to work hard at seeing that it doesn’t happen.